We often think relationships, full of love and mutual understanding, are just a fairy-tale. However, everyone of us can love and be loved and create such harmony in his life.
It’s so sad hearing words: “I do not want to start a family, as in the beginning everything goes ok, but later people disagree and divorce. And there is no guarantee I will be happy.” Parental relationships form a base of children’s love perception. If a child often hears raised voices and shouts at home, if he is used to irritated voices, then he will consider this quite admissible style of communication between two loving partners. Those who grew in such atmosphere have difficulties building normal relationships in their own family. Someone repeat parental script: lives in constant conflicts. Others cannot stand it and divorce, but repeat same mistakes in a new family. Thirds live in loneliness, fearing offences and disappointment.
Everyone wants to love and be loved, have a happy family and reliable rear. But only those who remember golden love rules manage to do it.
Confidence law
Victory got nervous, when her husband stayed too long on his work. It seemed to her that only a woman could be a reason for this. So, Victory listened to husband’s phone talks, interrogated him. Jim also was jealous of his wife’s attempts to visit gym or cosmetologist. He read her diary furtively and examined her handbag’s contents.
Trust is no longer presenting in this family. Trust is vitally important for really loving relationships. Without it a man becomes suspicious, anxious, and other is emotionally entrapped: he thinks freedom is lost. So, learn trusting not only your loved one, but also your relationships.
Sincere communication law
Christine and Antonio are married for three years. In the beginning they had both love and passion. But in a year their relationships became more even: Christine often felt hurt by her husband, because he could not guess her wishes right (you know she likes roses, not pinks); she was irritated Antonio flirted with her when she was busy. But she never told her husband about all that things, and he never could understand the reason of her bad mood.
A popular mistake among just-married couples: they think love is enough for happy family life. But love is not an artificial flower that can do without care. It is like a live plant – it can bloom, and can fade. Everything depends on our care. Sincere communication for live is like water for a plant – it cannot live without it. Tell each other about your wishes and feelings. Tell about your love – do not be afraid to overpraise a partner. And do not take good attitude to you as something self-evident. Thank!
Donation law
Lucie always had high demands for men. She wanted to have a loving, caring, tender, passionate husband with a house, car and etc. Lucie never thought about things she can present her darling. She said: “If he loves me, I will care about him too”. However, Lucie is still lonely, recently she turned 35.
To meet a real love, you need firstly present a part of you sincerely and unselfishly. If you want to receive love, you need to present it. And the more you give, the more you get. Love is like a boomerang – it will definitely come back. However, it may come back from other man, not the one you presented it to. But it will be repaid a hundredfold! And remember: you have an unlimited love supply. And the only way to lose love is not presenting it to others!
The problem is many people do not want presenting being first, they love with reservations: “I will love you only if you love me”. They wait until someone makes the first step. This is like a musician saying: “I will play after guests start dancing”. Real love requires nothing in exchange.
Touch law
Larry and Jinni split the trust between each other clearly. Jinni cooked, washed, did a house. Larry earned money. They talked only about family life. They made sex strictly upon schedule – no extraordinary hugs and touches. However, in the beginning Larry tried to gambol a little with his wife untimely, but she suppressed it. As it was found out later, in childhood Jinni never fooled around with her parents; hugs also were not accepted in her family.
Touch is one of the strongest love displays. It destroys barriers and strengthens relationships. To restore normal family atmosphere, psychologists even recommend a special training: hug your partner more often without any sexual motive; be naughty; hold by hands, like a young pair of lovers. By the way, “pupils” say this is the most difficult home task in their life.
Experts carried out an experiment in one of London clinics. In the evening, on the eve of surgery, a surgeon usually visited his patient to tell him about impending event and answer patient’s questions. And during this experiment doctor also held patient by his hand while talking to him. Such patient recovered 3 times quicker than others.
When you touch somebody carefully, your physiology also changes: level of stress hormones reduces, nervous system relaxes, immunity becomes stronger, emotional state improves. Wise people say: if you do not hug 7-8 people during a day carefully, you will be doomed to diseases.
Freedom law
Natalie and John married recently. Everything was wonderful. But some time later Natalie felt her husband tries to control her: thrusts his opinion on her, makes decisions for her. If she acts her own way, he becomes very nervous and tells her off during hours. However, Natalie thinks she is a grown-up person and can make decisions on her own.
If you love a person, give him freedom. Freedom of choice, freedom to live the way he wants, not the way you like. Surely, this is difficult. But there is no other way out. To avoid feeling entrapped, everyone needs private space.
