Pregnancy lasts for 40 weeks and a woman’s body changes significantly and she feels lots of discomforts. in the end, she has to face long hours of pain and physical exertion, to give birth to a baby. Don’t you think a woman deserves all the best for such huge work?
She will have no rest in future too. After the baby comes, it doesn’t stop here. Breast-feeding every 2 hours 24/7, exhaustion, hormonal changes, diapering, cleaning, cooking and everything else. After she spends time breast-feeding, her baby will go to sleep, and she will sit there and watch the baby sleep, only to miss her own time for rest, and then she has to get up and shower and go to the bathroom, only to have the baby want to eat again or be diapered.
Eventually moms will get the hang of it, but with her own body going through so much change and the fatigue from the birth itself can last a couple of weeks, unless she has had good prenatal and post partum care, of course.
So, how can dads help moms? The best variant for a husband is to take at least 1-2 weeks of vacation to help his wife recovering and arrange the process of breast-feeding. During this time, dads can make sure that all the shopping is done, and that the house is stocked.
Hire a cleaning lady to come in at least 2 times a week, the first week to get things into shape. Dads can take care of pets in a house, and when mom breast-feeds, take the baby and burp the baby. A woman should not carry her baby during walking for at least 1-2 weeks as the pelvis is very unsteady due to the birth and the repositioning.
Help with holding the baby during mom’s showers, eating and personal care. Moms get so thirsty when they are breastfeeding, so you should bring her a glass of tea with milk before the process.
Try to exonerate your wife from cooking for at least 2 weeks. Just ask someone to cook for both mom and dad. Soups are good as they are instant nutrition and very cleansing. Make sure mom has her supplements and get them all set up for her. These 2 weeks are for bonding for both mom and dad, and baby as a family and each other.
After the baby comes, just be there to help in any way you can. You will help mom to heal, baby will do better, and dads will be able to bond with baby and as a family.
Helping your wife in everything you can, will also help you not feeling lonely and forgotten. Just understand a baby is an eternal link between you, and you are a team.
