Both men and women experience certain physical changes in the process of preparation for sexually colored meeting. Their bodies pick up, become slimmer and taller. Eye are shining, smiles are radiant.
Sex appeal is a difficult mechanism, and there are many things able to intensify it – these are factors, connected with behavior and situation. We call them “ways of charm”, and women should know such ways exist and be able to use them.
For example, there is a myth, repeated by all school-boys: big breast girls are more sexual and approachable. They like making sex more. And big breast girls have to suffer from gibes: boys whistle them on streets.
This means women, decorated with big bosom by nature attract men automatically. According to some men’s opinions, they are more sexual just because they have big breast. They should not do anything, their anatomy does everything for them.
Here is the first way of charming: many men consider big breast an automatic sign of sexuality. This is the fact, and if you are lucky in this question, relax and use your advantages. But there are also other ways of charming, common for all of us, regardless of breast size.
Well, what about come-at-able women, those, who go for a date easily? Yes, you should not strain yourself while being with her, she supports a man’s “ego”, but there are disadvantages here too. “Such woman is easy to pick up, but it is difficult to get rid of her. She can fall in love seriously”.
Obviously, come-at-able women are not too desired.
Well, who is attractive then? Researchers from Wisconsin University came to following conclusion. Two factors determine how much a man likes a woman. One – is how easily a man can gain her. And second – how easily other men can gain her.
They set up a hypothesis: a very attractive woman should have a reputation of a woman that is difficult of access, but for some reason she should become a come-at-able one for this man.
Study Group invited 71 students to work in a computer center of partner selection. Each man was offered a file with information about 5 women – same ones for each man. The secret was that a file with their characteristics also contained a form, in which a woman valued partners she was offered.
One of 5 women was obviously come-at-able – she apprehended all 5 partners with enthusiasm. Other one was a very hard-to-get woman – she disliked every one of them. Another woman ignored 4 man, but was really interested in a 5th one. The file did not contain a form, filled by rest two women.
The researchers asked men how amicable or unfriendly that women were, and who attracted them. All men chose a discerning woman who ignored 4 men, but interested in the 5th one.
Scientists came to a very interesting conclusion: “It seems a woman can increase her own desirability, if she gains a reputation of a hard-to-get one, and then shows her darling she is interested in him through her behavior”.
Acquisition phenomenon. This is another way to charm a man. It says that people are attracted by a person, who firstly punishes, and then rewards, not the one who always rewards.
Experts from Illinois University made a video record of a talking actress. In one fragment a woman behaved coldly during whole interview, in other fragment – warmly, and in third one she was firstly cold, and then unbended. Men were asked which case attracts them more.
Which are results? “When a woman firstly behaves coldly, and then unbends, men like her more and want to see her again”, - researchers state. Men describe this phenomenon in different way, calling it selectivity or challenge. Discerning woman will be cold in the beginning, but later she thaws out towards a man, showing she prefers him among all others.
All men are really flattered, when they think a woman refuses other ones for their sake.
Anxiety factor. Researchers found out another aspect of sexuality – strong anxiety factor. This means sexual attraction or sexual feelings intensify due to strong emotions, such as anger, fear or pain.
To prove it, scientists carried out numerous researches. In Canada a group of students received advisedly underestimated marks for test, to make them angry. And then this group and screening group were given a task to write a sexual story. A group, stimulated by anger, wrote much more sexual stories.
Other Canadian research controlled men’s reaction to attractive women under the influence of danger. To carry out the experiment, scientists chose two bridges over Capilano River in North Vancouver. One of bridges was very unsteady, this was a suspension bridge with low banisters, and below – stones and violent stream. Bridge staggered from side to side. The other one was steady, a usual wooden bridge over a small inflow.
When men crossed the bridge, a woman- reporter came to them and said she was writing a task and asked them composing a small story about that passage. She offered men her phone number and told they could call her if they would have any questions. Then the procedure was repeated, but at that time a man came to them.
Results? After a passage over terrible bridge, in the situation of real danger men’s stories were full of sexual content, and half of men, who took a woman’s phone number, called her, of 16 men that did not experience extreme situation only two ones called a woman. Almost nobody called a man-reporter. In other words, danger increased a woman’s sexuality.
So, a conclusion seems obvious: a woman, striving to use a strong anxiety factor for her sexual benefit, just should put herself in the situation, when man and woman experience either strong emotions or some dose of physical danger together. It is this danger that will increase her sex appeal. It’s no surprise, lots of affairs take place in American clubs for lonely people that participate in paddling, traveling canyons and rafting. Danger – and even weak risk – rouse sexuality.
Benefit of beauty. Usage of physical attractiveness advantages is another way of charming. Numerous researches show most people think attractive people have more desirable features automatically. Attractive people seem to be happier, more sensual, sociable, having better character, than their less attractive confreres. This is psychologists’ opinion and it is confirmed by various tests.
Moreover, assumption “beauty is good” came even to kindergartens. A research, carried out among adults, working in kindergartens, found out the fact that adults think, if a pretty baby acts badly, she does this as she’s in bad mood, but in general – she’s a well-mannered girl. However, if a girl with average appearance does the same, then, probably, she will worry her teachers in further and grow ill-bred.
So, an attractive women – or the one that can convince others in illusion of her attraction, will be considered sexual with ease.
Effect of going out. Planning going somewhere to have fun, you think which girlfriend to take with you? Researchers found out, if you are not remarkable for particular beauty, you should better choose nice girls’ company, than home ninnies.
In Los Angeles University a group of students – men and women – was shown photo albums, where photos were combined in three, in the center – average-looking women, on edges – different combinations of very attractive, average and unattractive students.
Scientists discovered attractive women have huge influence. Ordinary women looked much more attractive, when they were surrounded by “beauties”, than in a company of same unattractive women.
“I’ve got one girlfriend, a stunning blonde, - says Marilee. – She just attracts men. Sometimes she calls me and offers going somewhere. Firstly I did not want. As I look worse. I thought all men would pay attention to her and I would stay alone. But everything was not that way. In fact, when we are together, we both attract attention, and many men, attracted by her appearance, then start talking to me and receive pleasure from it. I would say it is absolutely safe going out with attractive girlfriend”.
If you are physically beautiful, people suppose automatically you also have other positive qualities, i.e. beauty cannot be bad.
