Our life often goes on a track “work-house”. Both a guy, and a girl try to find «the destiny»: a person, unique, that only one.
Actually any acquaintance (especially happy!) is a successful confluence of variety of circumstances. Certainly, early age and unrestrained desire to love prevail. Guys and girls are drawn to each other by a magnet: in clubs and transport, at lectures and at office. One sight, one word - and here you write down a phone number, the first date is appointed.
Acquaintances happen on a skating rink, in a zoo, in any romantic small town where it is possible to wander simply on streets, coming into cafe and small restaurants to talk about everything in the world, without feeling obliged to anybody. There are lots of ways to make a day unique and at the same time noncommittal, if nothing happens in both hearts for more serious continuation.
Many consider that dating sites exist only for losers. It is not truth. Great bulk of visitors of similar resources simply saves time, money (preliminary courtings can be expensive), or searches for a one night meeting without obligations. If you are one of army of office employees which are filled up by affairs eternally to the detriment of private life, we hope this article can help you finding new acquaintances.
Wish to get acquainted through Internet?
Before creating a questionnaire, it is necessary to think over everything well. Therefore we will begin with a photo, and we will finish a dialogue technique. Create an ideal image, but do not be overzealous, otherwise a candidate will jump aside at a date with you due to your unreal image.
Now we will start the second stage – drawing up biographical particulars. Under no circumstances say lies about yourself. Either write the truth, or do not fill “undesirable” fields in general. Interest and an intrigue are your basic tools. Be always original, reject “templates” sending the first message to a person. “Greetings”, “How are you doing”, «Let’s get acquainted» - litter an information field and take away time. Always remain yourself, but be tactful and do not dare to offend the interlocutor.
One my fellow student told: «I noticed that rather bright girls very seldom leave contacts on dating sites, more often it is possible to meet girls who simply search for sex (but they are not so attractive - therefore cannot find someone in real), or a girl can be very modest and not sociable, therefore Internet is the best place for self-realisation. Well, still there are ones who just like joking».
But anyway, people continuously … get acquainted
The first appointment is always difficult and mysterious
We are nervous, we worry and, of course, we wish to be pleasant, we hope the first appointment does not become the only one… We should win in this game. Do not lose head, be assured and sincere!
Wear clothes that make you feel good.
New clothes always help - but if not new, be sure they’re clean, pressed, and fit well - or if that’s not your style - be sure they fit whatever way makes you feel the most comfortable and still look presentable.
First of all, it is necessary to consider men estimate a woman’s appearance at first, and only then look at her private world. As though it was insulting for us, but if we were not pleasant at first sight, any relations will be hardly possible in future.
Untidiness can push away a man. Therefore try to watch, whether everything is perfectly in order with appearance.
Hair should look well-groomed and natural.
Good manners are still in style. Well, not necessarily good manners - but common sense. Human kindness. That sort of thing is always in style.
The best means to draw my attention - a smile and a look into my eyes.
Listen actively to what your date says.
Don’t interrupt. While your date is talking, don’t spend time thinking about what you’re going to say when it’s your turn.
Well, first, do not show the interest from first minute. Men love pursuits and prosecutions, beckon them a little bit! Necessarily find out, whether there are women among his friends among. A man should be able to treat a woman as his friend, not sexual object.
I advise to be silent:
• About well-being, money, financial position.
• About lacks – to frighten in advance?
• About family and biography.
• About former lovers.
• About illnesses.
• About work and employees.
Make your date feel like a star. This means paying more attention to your date than to yourself by listening, asking loads of questions and calling your date by name. If you find yourself talking for more than 5 minutes straight, you need to stop, ask your date a question and try to get some back and forth going. If you’re shy, you’re in luck — just come up with a few good open-ended questions.
Be respectful of your date. Be polite with thank you’s. Pay attention when your date is talking. Give your date space, literally. Monitor your humor. (While humor can be one of the most wonderful things on a date, you have to remember that what’s funny to you, may not be funny to your date. So, test the waters before letting it rip. If you both find the same things amusing, laugh up a storm; but if you discover that your humor is different, save your breath while you save your integrity.)
Don’t think too much. If you find yourself smitten but your date isn’t calling or responding when the ball is in their court, give it a few days and then give a ring and tell them you’d like to get together again. If their response is a dud, let it go and move on. If your date comes around later, realizing how simply irresistible you are, let him or her make the effort to see you again.
Only woman herself can decide whether she should go for the first date sex or do it sometime later in the dating process. British scientists, however, warn that most females are disappointed in the first date sex. A study was conducted to establish this fact. The scientists asked a large number of women to do the study’s questionnaire and then made the conclusion that intimacy is not something we can rush with. Nevertheless, women often enough decide to go with the casual sex. One of the reasons that make them go for the first date sex is that during the ovulation phase, between the days 10 and 18 of the cycle, their sexual desire and arousal rise.
Be smart, be safe, and have an exit strategy. On most first dates you’re going out with someone you don’t know well, so stick to public places and tell someone you trust who you are meeting and where you will be. If you start to feel uneasy about the person you are with, then leave. Don’t chase your date. Never deprive a man of the thrill of the chase. Besides, it’s so much fun being caught! A woman can always initiate a first tea date, but after that, it’s up to a man to decide whether he wants to pursue you. Entice men, play with them, and then release them! Allow men to initiate and take the lead in moving your relationship forward.
Thank your date for a good time and arrange to do it again if things went well. If it wasn’t too great, just say that you’ll speak to them later.
While kissing your date good-bye avoid the reassuring pat on the back. A lack of a kiss may indicate that there is not a sexual relationship in the future. If this happens don’t expect a call for a second date and be content in knowing that you have just made yourself another very good friend!
