People write books and create movies, dedicated to human beings, endowed with a strong character.
Maybe they deserved to be praised by contemporaries or descendants, but as their relatives often recognize, living together with such person is not sugar. Not every of us will like being a wife of a man with character.
What is «temper»
Scientists are exploring a purposeful human behavior for more than fifteen centuries. Although identity of a particular person is extremely unique, you can always find people with similar traits. This allows you to create in a certain physiological and psychoanalytic typology. Almost all researchers cite in their research on existence of four types of temperament: sanguine person, choleric, phlegmatic person, melanholik.
Character is a set of basic, most stable mental, spiritual properties of man found in his behavior. Scientists who deal with typology of persons call at least two elements of character: emotionality and activity. We have in mind is how easily this situation causes a person’s emotional state and how high his activity is in action. Given various combinations of components, psychologists distinguish eight varieties: nervous, sentimental, stormy, passionate, sanguine person, phlegmatic person, careless, listless.
Of course, «pure» types rarely occur in reality. In everyday life we all are a type of «mixed». In addition, of course, human character traits are influenced by cultural and moral factors, that either strengthen them or weaken.
Properties of people, their humor, allows us providing a wide variety of their nature’s determination. A firm, strong, strong-willed, persistent, and even steeper character - a heroic one. Soft, livable, kind, gentle, wonderful, and even - gold one. Docile and dogged nature, heavy and light, ugly and beautiful… All these performance characteristics are subjective and very relative.
There is an interesting assumption that human nature is best revealed when one speaks about other person. It’s no secret that we, women, are often crying to our husbands: «If you won’t change your character! …».
From a letter by Nina T.:
- We met on holiday abroad. This man could not fail to be noticed: dressed faultlessly, with impeccable manners, excellent conversationalist, and a giant, beautiful, director of a company. My friends envied me. He made, and still makes a very good impression on others. Much later I realized that his good behavior was actually only a matter of courtesy and falsehood. During courtship it turned out that my beloved had a bad temper.
We have been married for three years. Now I am convinced that a man can be firm, when he is impassible. If in order to achieve heights of career my husband remains firm, concede to no one, endures, then our relationship with him is terrible. Emotional obduracy, lack of pity, inability to anticipate woman’s reaction - these qualities just kill me. Note that I’m also a lady with character. Conflicts arise with increasing frequency. Of course, I try to be «good», followed by his code of conduct, but my nature is beginning to rebel.
Harmonious balance
When a woman appreciates her character, then she always adds the word «forgiving» to «spitfire», «placable» - to «touchy». Such «counteraction» is typical to many of us. When it comes to the nature of her husband, there cannot be any «buts». Only - obnoxious, nasty, awful, in general, difficult character.
As soon as husband’s character becomes a stumbling block, long-term cooling of relations or hot battles appear in a family.
«Severe» and «easy nature» are very, very relative notions. Some seemingly intolerable character traits of your husband will may be quite acceptable for other woman. It is not your husband’s nature, the case is in your own nature, the extent of your your adaptability.
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If a man has strong will and fortitude, and perseverance in achieving objectives are main features of his character, only a docile, quiet woman, loving to worry of somebody, can be completely happy with him. This is «your» man, if you ennoble his dash by softness, likewise, his authoritarianism, and your humility, his activity and your patience, his judiciousness and your emotions, his efficiency and your reverie can be balanced.
Some of us by nature or by installation adheres to beliefs that a woman’s strength is in her weakness. Some people, despite the fact that women are the weaker sex, wants to be strong not to get totally dependent on a husband, build decent, equitable relations within a family. To achieve any goal, it is important to take into account only one attendant success condition: «The one who posesses himself is the strongest».
If you want peace, prosperity and happiness in a family, do not forget that there is no higher power than the power over yourself. In doing so, of course, it would be well, if men have learned this truth, and remember that great composure speaks about big heart.
