Being 14-16 years old a young man is experiencing a rush of feelings, rather than peak of sexuality, as some people think. A man reaches his sexual peak by 25 years. Since 30 maturity comes: romance and sexual violence remain in past, a normal family life starts. A man walkes usual path without disturbances, until suddenly cathes coming old age. Appearance of gray hairs in beard - one of the early signs of male menopause, which accounts for approximately 43-50 years. A man suddenly realizes that life goes away, and dreams of his youth still remained unfulfilled and it is now too late to change anything. A horrible idea plagues his soul and he can take a desperate step - «to get into the last carriage», to try to pass on the second circle of life.
It is believed that, having lived for about two-thirds of life, men are re-experiencing adolescent revolt against ordinariness. Hence, the frequent need to run away from home. The decision to start life «in old age» was blamed by society earlier. But now the society is more loyal. If a person goes to such a move, risking to remain no better off than before, then it is really necessary.
Allied souls
Why “unckles” are drawn to young girls? Indeed, mature ladies are more experienced, uninhibited, and sometimes much more sexual than young. If aging men were looking for sex in the first place, they may have talked to do the same. But another thing is important for them.
Since ancient times it is well known that the best means of rejuvenation aging men - young virgins. Sexual relationship with her is not even necessary, they need closeness in literal sense of the word. In many countries, the rulers had an old custom to lay young virgins in their beds, and it was enough to make old blood running faster.
Psychological overlaps play an important role in the novel between a man over 40 and a woman under 25. A woman of this age still has romantic sentiments, but a man is captured again. As for souls, they are in many ways closer to each other, than to their peers. The brighter a man’s identity is, the higher interest of young virgins is.
Well, what does his wife feel? She feels very difficult. A woman after forty is more difficult to build a life from scratch, including personal. And painful questions give her no rest:
Why did he leave?
Usually in such cases, men complain that their wives grew old before them (it does not matter who of the spouses is older - it is interior age). As one man said, «My drama is not that I’m a grandfather, but the fact that I live with a grandmother». When husband and wife disagree on different generations, like in different rooms, all that connected them before dissapears. Is it true that all was well, or a woman was just dreaming? Such changes do not happen overnight. If a wife did not notice anything until the last minute, then she ceased to notice her husband long ago.
How could he?
Fear of «outgoing train» and a desire to catch up are so strong at this time in a man, that neither a sense of duty or pity cannot stop him. If he feels he is not implemented and the relationship with his wife have become routine, a new novel is seen as salvation.
How to live here?
Such wounds cannot be quickly dragged. But the best way to cope with pain - to take care of yourself as soon as possible. This is not just about the body, but also about the soul (do not neglect psychotherapy). Especially now, when you have less domestic chores, there are no obstacles to devote yourself more time.
«Farewell» or «Au revoir»?
Once the door is closed, few of us will not ask a question «return or not?». This can not be predicted in advance. Some return to the bosom of an old family later, others knock about the rest of their lives, while others are building successful marriages, and do not look back (especially if a new wife gives birth to their child). But in any case, if a husband had already packed a suitcase, do not throw it to his face with shouts: «Do not ever go back!» If his leave brings no happiness, it is better to give him understand he is always welcome. And whatever will be will be.
