They say real, long-term relationships are built on trust. Trust is foundation for development of real closeness. If you want your relationship to be long, you must trust your partner your past, present and future. Is it this assertion true?
Work, work and work more
Not always confidence arises between two people by itself, even if they love each other. This is a necessary work, and if in past you had sad experience, the harder establishment of trust with a new partner will be. Building a trusting relationship takes time, you must show a partner you are faithworthy, and that you, in turn, trust him. You must do everything possible to create an atmosphere for his confidence towards you.
Listen to your partner, respect him and accept his beliefs. Tell him about yourself, show him you trust him, and help feeling confidence in you. Do not rush events. If you truly love your partner, you can wait.
Knowing the true nature
Confidence allows you to open fully. Despite all tricks we use to impress a partner on early stages of relationship, you need to know your partner and allow him knowing yourself for real closeness. A partner must know your true nature - what you can be when tired, angry, sad, or when you are talking on the phone with his mom. He must love you the way you really are, not the way he would like you to be.
This is the least that is required for long-term relationship.
Trust offers opportunities for open communication. You will not be able to speak frankly, if forced to constantly guessing your partner’s reaction and trying to rephrase your thoughts for him.
Trust in a partner will help you, in case of a quarrel, you will fight by the rules. Remember you argue with a living creature.
There is no need to reach the point of absurdity in your quest to build a trustful relationship - not all men are suitable for this. And if your intuition tells you this man is not the one, mind this warning. Look at him closely and the way he treats other people and you. Maybe your intuition does not deceive you.
Why are we jealous?
From time to time all can be jealous. Most often, jealousy is based on self-doubt: we have such low opinion of ourselves that cannot believe a partner really wants to be with us. The result: unnecessary anxiety and heightened suspicion. You always see the reasons for jealousy. If you reach this stage, the events usually develop in two scenarios: either you become a “city madman”, evil madman who controls every partner’s step, or become a crying victim, weak and dependent.
How to control jealousy?
To get started, you need to know if there is a reason to control. If you feel your partner is really cheating on you, break up relations.
Five tips will help you.
1. Be patient. Ignore attacks of jealousy and shoot away heavy thoughts. If you can rein in your emotions, over time you will gain confidence and become less prone to attacks of jealousy.
2. Gain confidence in yourself. If your jealousy is the result of low self-esteem, then you will be treated by a fair amount of love for yourself. Learn treating yourself well, asking friends to tell you how much they appreciate you.
3. Analyse jealousy. Coldly evaluate what is happening in your head, bringing friends to an analytical review. Perhaps you will understand that fear a partner will leave you is unsubstantiated.
4. Share your fears. If you honestly say a partner about your feelings, knowing person will hasten to dispel your doubts. In each fit of jealousy, you can describe the situation and share your fear.
5. Put yourself in a partner’s place. Try to imagine it is not you who are jelous, but he. What would you feel if confronted with unfounded fears and suspicions?
Men’s jealousy and how to fight it
I guess every girl was in a situation with a jealous young man. One, two times this brings pleasure, and when attacks are increasing, think! Jealousy is a manifestation of self-doubt. This feeling does not depend on success of social rights.
If a person is not sure of himself, he tries to compensate for this feeling at the expense of another. Therefore, if a man is constantly feeling he is not good for his girlfriend, he can find lots of real causes for resentment and suspicion.
How to resist his jealousy
1) Do not give up communicating with friends. He does not want you going in a cafe or restaurant? Invite friends at home. Strive to ensure that the company has a lot of women. Ask a couple of your friends to admire your idyllic family and your spouse in particular.
2) Put yourself in his place: be jealous. Ask, why he suddenly decided to become such a character? Let him reporting why he was repairing his vehicle so long and why he meets with school friend so often.
3) Provoke him. Allow your male friends calling you constantly. Tell your loved one you are not going to bury yourself in the four walls, especially in the company of such Otello.
4) Drop him a hint that jealousy is not a measure of courage, and tell you always dreamed of a self-confident man.
5) Turn each outbreak of jealousy into a joke. Let him get accustomed to the fact that jealousy is ridiculous and meaningless.
The main thing is to remember: fighting your boyfriend’s jealousy is a long and painstaking process.
